His Truth, Your Truth, The Truth!
Dear friend,
Every story you hear from someone about someone else have these 3 sides to it.
The truth of the teller, the truth from the third-party and the Real Truth!
Until you understand this, you may always lose value, worsen relationships, or make wrong decisions that will affect your sense of judgment.
It's true we live in a world of relationships, times when we get closely attached to some persons than the other. We live in a dispensation where we seem to be positively biased towards people who matter so much to us. Yet we must learn to go the extra-mile of hearing ALL the sides to a story before making decisions, drawing conclusions, or placing judgments.
Tosin complained bitterly about how insensitive and cruel Dayo has always been towards her recently to her Mother. She sobbed so hard and was explicit in her description of various times when she had been embarrassed by his actions. Being the only daughter of Mrs. Ade, her mother got quite furious and reminded her of her doubts when Dayo came for a proposal 2years ago. She, however, calmed her down and decided to deal with Dayo without mercy until he learns manners.
Beyond the story of Dayo's attitude, was the intolerance of Tosin, her refusal to conform to advices, her snobbish response to Dayo, and her unforgivable mindset. These fuelled Dayo's attitude, but Mum never cared to ask what happened from Dayo before giving him a public disgrace of his life on his birthday.
Till tomorrow Mama Tosin lives with the regret of such a hasty action after she found out that her daughter always poured the fuel that ignited the fire that burns her.
The story is always sweet and appealing to our emotions when it comes from our close friends. Dare to go the extra mile of hearing the other version.
Most people will almost always complain with bias that favors their side to a story. Take a chill pill friend, hear from the other person, and strike a balance before taking a decision.
Always ask yourself :
1) What is common in these two narrations?
2.) At what point are both right and wrong?
3.) What's the best way to handle this issue that they didn't explore?
4.) How best do I advise them to ensure this relationship is not seared deeper after my advice?
Beyond their truths, seek to identify THE TRUTH.
The truth is not relative, but personalized truths are hardly void of bias.
Don't be a relationship destroyer in the process of handling stories or challenges emanating from them.
Always add value to friends, relationships, and people you meet every day.
Let your words and actions Make A Difference at all points T.
Your MAD Advocate
Daniel Obiyo.
#JustMAD
#KeepMAD
#MADAdvocate
#QuintImpact.
Every story you hear from someone about someone else have these 3 sides to it.
The truth of the teller, the truth from the third-party and the Real Truth!
Until you understand this, you may always lose value, worsen relationships, or make wrong decisions that will affect your sense of judgment.
It's true we live in a world of relationships, times when we get closely attached to some persons than the other. We live in a dispensation where we seem to be positively biased towards people who matter so much to us. Yet we must learn to go the extra-mile of hearing ALL the sides to a story before making decisions, drawing conclusions, or placing judgments.
Tosin complained bitterly about how insensitive and cruel Dayo has always been towards her recently to her Mother. She sobbed so hard and was explicit in her description of various times when she had been embarrassed by his actions. Being the only daughter of Mrs. Ade, her mother got quite furious and reminded her of her doubts when Dayo came for a proposal 2years ago. She, however, calmed her down and decided to deal with Dayo without mercy until he learns manners.
Beyond the story of Dayo's attitude, was the intolerance of Tosin, her refusal to conform to advices, her snobbish response to Dayo, and her unforgivable mindset. These fuelled Dayo's attitude, but Mum never cared to ask what happened from Dayo before giving him a public disgrace of his life on his birthday.
Till tomorrow Mama Tosin lives with the regret of such a hasty action after she found out that her daughter always poured the fuel that ignited the fire that burns her.
The story is always sweet and appealing to our emotions when it comes from our close friends. Dare to go the extra mile of hearing the other version.
Most people will almost always complain with bias that favors their side to a story. Take a chill pill friend, hear from the other person, and strike a balance before taking a decision.
Always ask yourself :
1) What is common in these two narrations?
2.) At what point are both right and wrong?
3.) What's the best way to handle this issue that they didn't explore?
4.) How best do I advise them to ensure this relationship is not seared deeper after my advice?
Beyond their truths, seek to identify THE TRUTH.
The truth is not relative, but personalized truths are hardly void of bias.
Don't be a relationship destroyer in the process of handling stories or challenges emanating from them.
Always add value to friends, relationships, and people you meet every day.
Let your words and actions Make A Difference at all points T.
Your MAD Advocate
Daniel Obiyo.
#JustMAD
#KeepMAD
#MADAdvocate
#QuintImpact.
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